Wednesday, March 22, 2017

A Life Well Lived

First of all I want to thank all of you for your prayers and loving thoughts.  I will say that I can really feel the power of the positive thoughts and prayers because otherwise I don't think I would have been able to cope as well as I have been.  There were many times where I felt like my heart was going to explode from the pain and anguish.  At that moment it truly felt like someone enclosed me in their arms and held me until the sorrow passed. 

Saturday March 18, 2017 I had a Celebration of Life open house here at the farm.  Many friends stopped by to say goodbye, and share some lovely funny stories.  My brother flew in on the red eye that morning from Oregon.

My parents had arrived the day after the accident, I wish they all could have been her under better circumstances.

I will admit I was afraid that no one would show up since Jeff's family is having a large memorial in town.  I was thankful when Kris from Kris Loves Fabric arrived, and  I was pleasantly surprised at all of the people who came.  I know we had well over 50 people come.

Jeff wasn't one to take pictures often.  I managed to scrounge up enough pictures to make a memory board.  I titled it A Life Well Lived.  On the board were pictures which I got from the AA when he was little, a few pictures of the daughters, and a picture of him with  the grand kids.

You can see I had the table set with some of his small John Deere tractors.

My ex husband and his wife sent me this gorgeous basket. 
My parents bought this lovely arrangement it is full of yellow flowers.  Jeff being a John Deere kind of guy always wanted green and yellow.

This is the basket of flowers that I ordered.  I thought it was perfect with the yellow roses and greenery, and green gingham bow. 

I also received an arrangement from Kate and Dustin my oldest daughter, and Kate's mother in law sent a lovely plant also.

I had the flowers on a table with a basket for cards, a guest book, memorial folders, and more tractors, and the wedding cake topper Jeff had chosen when we got married. 

The prayer inside his memorial folder:

Native American Prayer

I give you this one thought to keep-
I am with you still- I do not sleep, 
I am a thousand winds that blow, 
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle Autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight, 
I am the soft stars that shine at night.

I will say that I think that Jeff was a great example of a Life Well Lived and all of his friends and the family that showed to share, were proof. 


  1. Still thinking of you. Thanks for taking the time to update us. Take care.

  2. Praying for you! A celebration of life is a great idea.

  3. You are never far from my thoughts my friend, we continue to lift you in prayer as well. It was a beautiful gathering and it was truly obvious how well loved you and Jeff are. I was happy I could be there and give those hugs which were from myself but also from all your blogger friends who were there in spirit even if they were not able to visit in person.

  4. what a great tribute to a great man and his wife. you have a lot of people who care about you and your well being and that are praying to help get you through. I may only be a "blogging" buddy but feel like I know you and your good heart. Jeff knew you had a pure heart too. <3 Jeff will live on in the memories and hearts of others. hugs my friend......

  5. A wonderful post showing your love. Prayers from Texas.

  6. I have always loved that prayer. I think the thought it evokes would be especially comforting each and every day. Each line gives you pause to recall a memory of a time you spent together feeling the breeze on your face, looking at the stars and sharing a memory of a starlit night with the moonshine glistening on newly fallen snow. He was and is a part of the earth and truly will never leave your side. Loving thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
    xx, Carol

  7. So sweet , glad things went well. Hugs from me

  8. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I felt your tears, but also your laughter, embracing Jeff's Life Well Lived! What a great tribute with those little tractors and the flowers in his favourite John Deere colours. So glad you felt all those hugs from your blogger friends. Will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.

  9. Beautiful celebration of his life; I love that Native American perfect...hugs, Julierose

  10. Thank you for sharing Jeff's Life Well Lived.

  11. It sounds like a beautiful tribute to a life well lived. I'm sure Jeff would have been thrilled to have so much green and yellow. The flowers were gorgeous and I am so happy that you had so many friends and family there to celebrate his life as well as your life together. I continue to keep you in my prayers as I know I am not alone in doing so. I'm happy to hear that they have provided some comfort during this terrible time.

  12. You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers Colette. Thanks for sharing the special day you created for your love.

  13. I wish I could have been there. I was there in thought, all day Saturday. Hope things are going better now. Know that you are cared for.

  14. I continue to think of you and how brave and strong you are. I hope you find comfort in knowing Jeff lived life well.

  15. I am truly sorry for your loss, I was so shocked when I found out. My heart goes out to you in all forms. I think of you everyday and my prayers for you are there as well...

  16. Thinking and praying for you as life continues without Jeff. Hope you have been able to sort out all the bits and pieces you need too. I am glad it was a wonderful tribute to him and his life. Blessings.

  17. I'm so glad you had such a sweet memorial for him at the farm. All the stories you've written on your blog about him and your farm have always shown such love. xo

  18. I love that you were celebrating his life! He will be around you and you will know. A love like yours will keep him near to you. How long were you married? I love that wedding topper, so you two. Praying God eases your heart.


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